How can we have a shared approach to parenting during separation?

Separation is always difficult and can be more challenging when children are involved. 

Separating parents are encouraged to work out arrangements that are in the best interests of the children.  Where possible and safe, arrangements should support children to have a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents and other family members.  Parenting arrangements may need to consider the impact of COVID-19 and how parenting will look during and after the pandemic.   

The Family Court of Australia has useful information about separation which can be found here

The Family Court of Australia also has useful information about children and separation which can be found here

Depending on your circumstances, there are three options for how to reach a shared approach to parenting after separation. These include:

• Parents working out an arrangement on their own, using available information and tools
• Parents using Family Dispute Resolution to help make an arrangement
• Parents seeking the assistance of the Court.

Reaching an agreement with your former partner has many advantages such as reducing financial and emotional costs of legal proceedings and encouraging ongoing communication about the needs of the children.

The Family Relationships Advice Line can provide information, advice and telephone-based Family Dispute Resolution services to assist parents and carers to discuss any issues that arise and help them come to an agreement. The Family Relationships Advice Line can be contacted on 1800 050 321 or visit the website.

There are also online tools that can assist parents to agree on a shared approach to parenting after separation. For example, ‘amica’ is a new online dispute resolution tool developed by National Legal Aid. This digital service enables users to negotiate and communicate online with their former partner, and can assist parents to develop a parenting plan for their children. amica is suitable for separated couples who are reasonably amicable and whose situation is not complex. More information about amica is available at amica.gov.au.  

If you or your children are feeling unsafe or experiencing domestic or family violence, you can access information, counselling and support through 1800RESPECT website or call 1800 737 732. 1800RESPECT are open 24 hours a day during COVID-19.

If you believe you are in immediate danger please contact the Police in your State on 000.